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Tracy and Sarah answer your letters including one from a woman who discovered her husband was telling people online that she was dead and referred to another woman and their child as "wife and daughter." Is this a game to him? Is he cheating? Or is...
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Tracy and Sarah answer your letters including one from a woman who discovered her husband was telling people online that she was dead and referred to another woman and their child as "wife and daughter." Is this a game to him? Is he cheating? Or is...
This week we asked what your FWs were up to. Of course, the goal is meh, but some of us are still coparenting, or in the midst of divorce, or news of their misadventures travels back. Often with a large dose of schadenfreude and gratitude that these...
Part of the trauma after infidelity is rumination. The endless mind movies reliving what you know and, worse, imagining what you don’t. In this episode, listeners tell us how they dealt with the endless intrusive thoughts. What therapies worked, who...
What advice would you give a new chump knowning what you know now? We heard from many listeners who had hard-won advice for the newly betrayed. How to choose who you tell, to focusing on self-protecting over reconciliation, and deep regrets about...
"I'm sorry, but you didn't like octopus," is among the more ridiculous apologies a cheater has given for being unfaithful. In this episode, Tracy and Sarah react to your submissions for lamest non-apology apologies you received. The sad sausages for...
Sarah and Tracy answer a letter from a listener wondering how she can be a supportive friend to someone who is in an abusive marriage with a cheater. When should you worry about your own personal safety, or call child services? Is there anything you...
Author and creator of ChumpLady.com
Tracy is a journalist and cartoonist who runs the popular advice site ChumpLady.com. She’s also the author of “Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life: The Chump Lady’s Survival Guide” (Hachette, 2016).
A liberal arts major with a peripatetic career, her most recent straight job was state news editor at the AARP Bulletin. Covering voter suppression guides during the Trump years broke her brain and she returned to freelancing, which gives her more time to tell people to leave jerks.
A most recent accolade: her protest sign — a drawing of herself screaming into the void — now resides at the Smithsonian.
BBC radio presenter, mighty single mum of four
Studied law. Visions of sweeping round court in a dramatic fashion. Realised more likely to be involved in petty disputes than high court drama . Relocated dramatic sweeping ambitions to radio.
Gathered experience. University Radio Nottingham, BBC Nottingham, commercial radio. Non-glamorous overnight presenting shifts on industrial estates.
London and post-graduate diploma in broadcast journalism followed by Lantern Fm. Afternoon presenter, voice of the Lantern gnome.
Then Plymouth Sound. BBC Cornwall and the regional evening share. Populated by poetry reading regulars. Braved the backlash of banning poetry. Boosted the audience. Introduced diverse voices. One of them, a dominatrix, got Sarah her first Sony (Radio Academy) nomination. Two more Sonys followed then some network presenting.
Finally Brighton breakfast. A Frank Gillard award when a listener invited Sarah to follow through her gender reassignment surgery. Now to be found discussing anything from bereavement to whether naturists bare bottoms are socially acceptable in a pub environment.