10 stars!

Chump Lady saved me from the delusion of thinking that my abuse of marriage could be saved. Instead of trying to reconcile with someone who was a liar and a manipulator and was never going to change and hadn't demonstrated changing in the past 12 years, Chump lady showed me that he wasn't going to change and that my life would be better and happier from leaving him. And it's so true.

Unfortunately reconciliation is a myth. How could you possibly ever trust someone who willingly lied to and deceived you in order to have an affair. No matter how sorry they seem they still gave themselves permission to disregard you and to step out of the marriage and to cheat on you. I've not seen any evidence and all of my searching that reconciliation works.