Reviews

Wow, this is even better than the blog. The humanity you can feel from voices, chuckles, and earnest interviews touches the soul and deep corners of scared and traumatized minds.

I am so grateful to have found Chump Lady’s writing, and now to have this amazing podcast is such a gift! It’s uplifting, validating, and affirming. Listening to it helps me feel less alone, and armed with even more knowledge to heal from betrayal trauma.

The hosts do a great job sharing their own experiences and those of their guests. It’s so nice to have an alternative take on dealing with infidelity, dealt with humanity and humor. Love it!

Many of us have tried to fix a relationship with a cheater. And in order to do this most of the time we have to make ourselves small. The infidelity itself told us just where we stand in our spouses life and now in order to reconcile we have to swallow our hurt and become even smaller. Well that’s garbage. Infidelity changes you forever. It changes the relationship forever. The foundation of trust is gone. And chances of that coming back is very slim. We have to stop fooling ourselves into believing somehow we can “save our family” while being married to someone who only wants to please himself. Set yourself free from the real and imagined expectations of our family, friends, church. You too are mighty.

This is the podcast for you! Also recommend reading Tracey’s book and blog. Tracey’s wisdom helped save me and my kids lives. Literally! She has an enlightening and refreshing take on being a chump that helps us chumps to embrace the reality that has been dumped on us and empower us to take our lives back. This includes not just dealing with the cheating abusive significant other but dealing with therapist who insist that you are “part of the problem” when they know good and well that no one but the cheating/abusive spouse is the only one that can control their own actions, Switzerland friends/family, flying monkeys, narcissistic and highly toxic people, how to coparent with a highly toxic spouse, etc. I’m 10yrs out of an abusive marriage and 5yrs free from highly toxic people in all areas of my life. (The first 5yrs post divorce were spent jumping through hoops with people described above for the “good of the children” as the court and toxic therapist liked to put it. Let me be very clear, it wasn’t for the good of my children but for the good of their pocket books as I was constantly wrapped in judicial battles with my ex and they reaped the benefit of continuing the chaos instead of recognizing his abuse and forcing boundaries with him). Life is good now on the other side after I took Tracey’s advice.

Chump Lady saved me from the delusion of thinking that my abuse of marriage could be saved. Instead of trying to reconcile with someone who was a liar and a manipulator and was never going to change and hadn't demonstrated changing in the past 12 years, Chump lady showed me that he wasn't going to change and that my life would be better and happier from leaving him. And it's so true. Unfortunately reconciliation is a myth. How could you possibly ever trust someone who willingly lied to and deceived you in order to have an affair. No matter how sorry they seem they still gave themselves permission to disregard you and to step out of the marriage and to cheat on you. I've not seen any evidence and all of my searching that reconciliation works.

I LIVE for podcasts. I’m very fussy and will dismiss podcasts that may mean well but just don’t deliver on listenable status. This one delivers! If you’ve been cheated on at anytime in your life (yes, it’s abuse. Not a “phase” that is normal and harmless ) this is for you!

The stories shared in the Tell Me How You are Mighty podcast have empowering messages, are inspiring and it really helps a chump get through some tough days. It’s nice knowing that you are not alone and are in good company. I can’t thank Tracy Schorn and Sarah Gorrell enough for having yet another platform for chumps to go to. If you haven’t read Tracy’s book ‘Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life’ yet- it’s a must-read for anyone who has been cheated on- whether you decide to stay or not. Also, check out her blog at chumplady dot com - and if you are asking yourself if I am paid to plug the above, no! I’m not! I just know what has helped me wade through emotions caused by infidelity and these are excellent resources. Cheating is trauma. At any rate, thank you mighty ladies once again for creating this podcast!! 👍👍🫶🏻🙌

Amazing

This was a really enlightening conversation about the character deficits of cheaters. It's amazing to me how so many voices are urging the normalization of cheating when really cheating is a form of manipulation and abuse. I am so glad I finally woke up and kicked my cheater to the curb. There is no rational thinking coming from a cheater. Their only regret is getting caught.

Thank you Tracy and Sarah - thank you for providing a platform for those who have been traumatized by infidelity to tell their stories. The struggle that these people have gone through and the strength that they exemplified to overcome very cruel and difficult circumstances is inspiring! It is heartening to know there is hope on the other side of betrayal. Tracy's best line is, "Is this relationship acceptable to you?".

This podcast shows the infidelity is something you go though but don’t have to get stuck in that space. There is so much fear mongering about life after divorce. Many of us are living full and even better lives once rid of the ‘parasites’.

The LACGAL book and this podcast has been life saving. There are so few resources that focus on the specific abuse that people with cheating partners endure. Between the deceitful behaviour and the gaslighting, chumps need a guiding light and a helping hand to move forward in ways to gain back their power and sanity.

The book, the blog and these podcast episodes have been my life line to sanity and to moving towards finding peace. If you have experienced infidelity in your life, please listen to this podcast. You will laugh, you will cry, and you will find your community. It’s your path to peace and happiness, after the crushing depths of infidelity.

Tracy Shorn and her no nonsense viewpoint saved me from wallowing in self pity after my husband abruptly left me for his secret mistress. In this podcast, she and Sarah tell their stories and interview both experts and fellow chumps for confirmation of the ideas that cheaters are responsible for their own actions and the best choice is to find your mightiness and move forward to a new life without the cheater. If you have been cheated on, this is the podcast for you!

Chump lady’s book literally saved my sanity 7 years ago. I’ve followed the blog all this time as well. To listen to Tracy on this podcast is just amazing! Thank you Tracy and Sarah, you are life savers!

Essential podcast for anyone regaining their life after infidelity! Listen, learn, and become mighty!

I love this podcast! Finally survivors of infidelity abuse are getting a voice to tell their stories. Thank you!

I am so glad there is finally a podcast about infidelity and all the crazy stories that go with it, along with survival stories, and done with humor which at some point is all you can go to with the BS that can happen when your ex goes from over the moon happy in a long term marriage - to "I love you, but I'm not in love with you". I'm 6 years out from my husband and one of my good friends rocking my entire world with red flags, bs, and lies that they were 'just friends' that made me feel like I was losing my mind. I HIGHLY recommend this if you at the beginning of a separation, going through the utter hell of it, or years past the betrayal. I love the topics, and stories that had I not gone through this, I would not have believed, but here they are.

I’ve never been Chumped, but this information is so universal it’s still fascinating. Take a listen you won’t want it to end.

The show highlights individuals who have overcome three worst of betrayal. The hosts are thoughtful and witty with a keen insight. A must listen for anyone who has experienced the pain of infidelity.

What is a chump? There are many of us who have lived through the agonizing pain of infidelity— we are Chumps! Tracy Shorn has coined this phrase so effectively to empower us to move through probably the most horrific experience of our lives. She tells us that it is ok to be mad, unravel, and not to blame ourselves. Until I discovered Chump Lady, all the “advice” I read spoke about “accepting how I contributed to my husband’s infidelity.” Barf! I didn’t cause it— he did with his lousy character and self-absorption. I finally had the language to move forward and leave that loser! Kudos for this podcast!!